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And Now We Have Everything

And Now We Have Everything

On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

“The biggest compliment of all: I used several hours of daylight childcare hours reading this book, just because I didn’t want to put it down.” — Emma Straub

A raw, funny, and fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before feeling like a grown up.

When Meaghan O’Connell got accidentally pregnant in her twenties and decided to keep the baby, she realized that the book she needed – a brutally honest, agenda-free reckoning with the emotional and existential impact of motherhood – didn’t exist. So she decided to write it herself.

And Now We Have Everything is O’Connell’s exploration of the cataclysmic, impossible-to-prepare-for experience of becoming a mother. With her dark humor and hair-trigger B.S. detector, O’Connell addresses the pervasive imposter syndrome that comes with unplanned pregnancy, the fantasies of a “natural” birth experience that erode maternal self-esteem, post-partum body and sex issues, and the fascinating strangeness of stepping into a new, not-yet-comfortable identity.

Channeling fears and anxieties that are still taboo and often unspoken, And Now We Have Everything is an unflinchingly frank, funny, and a visceral motherhood story for our times, about having a baby and staying, for better or worse, exactly yourself.
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Genre: Nonfiction / Biography & Autobiography / Women

On Sale: April 10th 2018

Price: $13.99

Page Count: 240

ISBN-13: 9780316393836

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Praise

"Meaghan O'Connell writes with bracing clarity about the milk-soaked days of pregnancy and early parenthood, and I (truly) laughed and cried reading her account of crossing the great human divide. Maybe there are parents who don't have to wrestle with themselves and their spouses for a free hour, who dance out of the delivery room feeling sexy and serene, but I want to throw them out a window and then stay inside and talk to Meaghan about how life really is. The biggest compliment of all: I used several hours of daylight childcare hours reading this book, just because I didn't want to put it down."—Emma Straub, New York Times bestselling author of Modern Lovers
"As someone who hopes to have kids someday, but has no idea what that might mean, reading this book felt like getting the first honest glimpse into that world after a lifetime of clichés."—Julie Buntin, author of Marlena
"As any parent knows, having a child is akin to detonating a tiny bomb in the middle of your otherwise wonderful life. O'Connell is fearless when negotiating the mess and magic of such difficult terrain, the place where fantasy goes to die and a genuine adult must rise in its stead (and function perfectly on no sleep). And Now We Have Everything is like the very best conversations, the ones you have in lowered tones at the back of a smoky bar with a trusted friend-funny, dark, and threaded with just the right amount of hope."—Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney, New York Times bestselling author of The Nest
"It's impossible to praise this book without realizing how the words we use to describe prose often originate in the words we use to describe the experiences of the body: laid bare, warm, ecstatic, brutal. And Now We Have Everything is a stark reminder of the beating, breakable hearts of the world's mothers."—Alana Massey, author of All the Lives I Want
"The harrowing, hilarious, totally honest account of parenthood we've all been waiting for. O'Connell's story is compulsively readable for parents and non-parents alike, as much about being young and unprepared for life as bringing another human into this chaotic world."—Sarah Gerard, author of Sunshine State
"O'Connell's honest, heartbreaking, and hilarious book about motherhood and identity is unlike anything I've ever read. And Now We Have Everything is a smart, tell-it-like-it-is essay collection from a much-needed voice."—Esmé Weijun Wang, author of The Border of Paradise
"Equal parts anthropology and autobiography, And Now We Have Everything is a rigorous and thoughtful debut (and funny, let's not forget funny) from a fiercely intelligent writer. Meaghan O'Connell has done a great service to new moms and dads: showing that anxiety and humiliation are a part of being a parent, and best confronted with humor and honesty."—Rumaan Alam, author of Rich and Pretty
"I began And Now We Have Everything on a Friday evening and was finished with it by Saturday afternoon--and that was with house guests to entertain and two children to keep alive! Meaghan O'Connell's honesty, humor, vulnerability, and willingness to explore motherhood in all of its messy complexities made me feel understood in a way few books do. I never wanted it to end. A necessary, brilliant debut."—Edan Lepucki, New York Times bestselling author of California and Woman No. 17