In KNOWING GOD INTIMATELY Joyce Meyer explains that the depth of our relationship with God is not dependent on his pursuit of us, but on our pursuit of him and our willingness to be obedient to his Word:
"Does God have favorites? No, Scripture teaches us that we, not God, determine our own level of intimacy with Him. We have all been extended the open invitation to approach the throne of grace with confidence so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. At this moment, each one of us is as close to God's throne of grace as we choose to be.
"Looking first at God's dealings with the Israelites beginning in Exodus, chapter 19, we can see four levels of intimacy that we can choose to have with God. Moses went alone to the top of the mountain where others could also ascend to be near Him. The borders coincided with their corresponding level of maturity and commitment to pursue Him."