Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go

A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss


By Gina Moffa, LCSW

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“A must-read book that will help your mind feel less heavy and open the door to deep personal growth" —Yung Pueblo, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Lighter and Clarity & Connection

Licensed grief and trauma therapist Gina Moffa illuminates a non-linear path through grief, with tools and practices to grieve at your own pace and use loss as a catalyst for a more connected, meaningful life.   Perfect for readers of Grief Day by Day and It's OK That You're Not OK, this "incredibly unique" (Mary-Frances O'Connor),  "smart, modern, and heartfelt guide" (Dr. Galit Atlas) is a  "lifeline to the exhausted treading water in an ocean of loss" (Rabbi Steve Leder).  

Grief hurts. Whether it’s the death of someone you love, the end of a friendship, a breakup, or an ambiguous loss, grief visits each of us in time. But even though it’s one of our most universal human journeys, grieving isn’t something most of us know how to do.

In Moving on Doesn’t Mean Letting Go, Gina Moffa takes an honest look at how grief affects our lives, offering a heartfelt, practical map through the dark terrain of loss—one that aims to shift the pain of your grief even when things feel unpredictable and overwhelming.

Grounded in nearly two decades of clinical experience and her own journey as a grief therapist in the throes of grief after losing her mother to cancer, Gina honors the individual momentum of each person’s process while guiding readers to:
  • Navigate the initial shock of the “griefall”
  • Process all forms of loss—from loved ones to pets, miscarriage, divorce, and more
  • Get in touch with their needs, feelings, and boundaries
  • Recognize their unique grief rhythm
  • Connect mind and body through somatic exercises and self-reflections
Gina gives readers permission to grieve authentically—with none of the toxic positivity that bypasses the possibility of true healing and transformation—because you don’t have to choose between falling apart or staying strong. You can learn to be empowered by the very thing you imagined would swallow you whole. 



When Josh first came to see me, he was a twenty-four-year-old, self-proclaimed “grief mess” who was in such distress, he struggled to explain why he was even seeking therapy. His girlfriend, Rebecca, had died a year earlier in a car accident that he had survived, unharmed. They had been headed to dinner to celebrate both of them getting the jobs they’d been working toward, when they were sideswiped by a drunk driver and slammed into parked cars on the side of the road at 55 mph. Rebecca got the brunt of the impact and was unconscious at the scene, passing away later at the hospital. It was coming upon the year anniversary of the accident when Josh decided to reach out for help.

Sitting on my couch, trying to catch his breath, Josh confessed that he felt frozen in his guilt around still being alive. Grief, he said, was “infiltrating everything” in his life: his relationships with friends and family, his new dream job—which he felt unable to show up for even though it was the work he had always wanted to do—even his sense of the world itself. The trauma and grief of that accident was continuing to give him flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, and nightmares. He was coping (or, well, not coping) with a tremendous amount of guilt and shame by drinking to curb the intrusive thoughts and symptoms, but that only made him feel worse.

He felt stuck, jostling around in a disconcerting limbo not entirely in the past, but not quite in the present, either. Everyone around him had encouraged him to try to move on from the accident and Rebecca’s tragic death, but his body and heart just couldn’t.

He wanted help, but he was also struggling to accept support, adding that he still felt too attached to Rebecca to “just let go.”

That made sense to me.

I’ve heard from a lot of Joshes over the years. People who have lost someone or something incredibly important and tried to get over it and keep it moving, only to find themselves feeling like an alien in their own life. Distant and disconnected emotionally, feeling out of sync with the world by a few beats, and genuinely confused by what’s happening at times. Mind, body, and spirit, the people who reach out to me are desperate for healing, but unsure how to move forward after losses that have shattered their world even, and perhaps especially, when nobody else seems to see the full extent of the damage.

As a grief and trauma therapist for more than a decade, I have seen the way that grief sits at the root of so many mental health challenges, from post-traumatic stress disorder and major depression, to substance use disorder and anxiety. A study done before the pandemic by AmeriSpeak found that 57 percent of Americans were grieving the loss of someone or something important.1 That means every other person you see is grieving—and, yes, “is” grieving in the present tense; grief never truly goes away. Spring of 2020, COVID increased that number, bringing loss to millions more doorsteps.

There is no escaping or outrunning loss in our lives, individually nor collectively. Loved ones, friends, pets, identities, pregnancies, homes, health—the many losses that come with life might just be a matter of fact if we had any real clue how to cope when they come, but we struggle. Even many of my colleagues tell me they either do not feel comfortable working with grief or are not well equipped clinically. Grief and loss classes weren’t offered as a part of any mandatory clinical curriculum and even now, at best, it’s still just an elective.

If only grief were equally elective.

You Are Not Alone

The people who sit on my couch are courageous. Some of them would shudder to hear me call them “brave,” but it’s true. Grief may be one of our most universal emotional experiences, but that doesn’t erase how isolating, confusing, and profoundly painful it can be. It takes a lot to look at your pain head-on, to see what’s under it. Josh struggled with that kind of vulnerability for a long time. He had always had a hard time expressing his emotions, and he’d pull himself up short every time he wanted to cry over his loss, telling me that his father always told him to stop crying and grow up. That forbidding voice echoed in every person who had told him to get over it or move on. After hearing it so many times from so many different people, it made perfect sense to me that Josh hadn’t yet figured out how to be where he was in his grief experience. He was living between the shock of his loss and the expectations of others.

Then one day he came into the office, sat down, looked me in the eyes clearer than I had ever experienced, and said he was ready to do it my way.

My way, huh?” I shrugged. “Thing is, Josh, my way is for you. So, it’s your way, too.”

Which brings me to this moment right here with you. If you are reading this book, it’s likely that you’re enduring a loss, maybe for the first time. Maybe you’ve lost a parent, grandparent, another family member or loved one. Maybe you’re grieving a beloved pet, or a friend you used to call every day but haven’t spoken to for years, and you’re not sure why. Maybe you’re going through a major breakup, enduring chronic illness, or are struggling with painful fertility challenges. Or, maybe you picked up this book for a different type of loss. Your grief may be very fresh or you may now be ready to process a loss that happened years ago. Our losses can be ambiguous, such as those of miscarriage or dementia, and even expand to things like loss of expectations, hope, a future, safety, identity, and so much more. Or, maybe you’ve endured losses that seem to have compounded. Maybe it was a traumatic loss or maybe it feels traumatizing to you.

Whomever, whatever, and however you lost, I am sorry.

I am so, so sorry.

And I’m glad that you found this book.

While no book can substitute for one-on-one therapy or specialized grief support, I hope that these pages can become a safe space for you—just you and me in this vault with no judgment, no secrets, and no societal or ancestral rules, a space to come closer to our truest selves and gather tools for healing wounds, old and new, one step at a time.

To that end, I want you to make me two promises: First, that you won’t judge yourself while you’re here with me. And second, that you won’t rush yourself through this book. The healing process isn’t a Netflix series to binge so we can hurry up and learn what happened to Judy on Dead to Me. The only thing harder than our losses is the pressure we feel from ourselves and others about how long we can grieve (spoiler alert: not very!) before we need to “just move on.” I think you already know, just from the feelings that have brought you here, that our entire equilibrium is thrown off balance when we suffer a loss, and as much as I wish it to be true at times, we can’t just click our heels and find ourselves safely back in bed realizing it was all only a dream.

Loss can leave us adrift, feeling alone and terrified, without any real sense of direction in a land we never wanted to visit. I often imagine a strange and painful opposite land, where we don’t know what we want or what we need and every time we get a clue about those things, they change on us, and then we want something else. Maybe we want company, then we want to be alone. Maybe we want to go home and cry, but then we find something funny that was left behind and find ourselves bowled over in laughter. We sometimes feel guilt for a million things—and especially that first moment of happiness after our loss. We want to feel peace; we also want to go back in time and try again. It’s a strange and wild ride. And, I see you.

Grieving When We Don’t Know How

Grief can feel like a nasty tug-of-war between what was and what is. And, let’s be honest—we aren’t the same as we were before our loss. Like the worst version of Google Maps, our brain is busy “recalculating” itself as we try to find a way through the world and our future that doesn’t feel utterly traumatizing and terrifying. Feeling so profoundly disoriented, some of us shut down emotionally, too overwhelmed to manage how we feel and how others say we’re “supposed to” feel. I know the confusion and desperate need for something to hold on to that comes with loss, and hell, even the instinct to just keep tossing things and relationships away after loss. I know the anxiety that’s grief’s sidekick, looking around in fear, wondering who or what will be taken from us next. And yet, we still have to go on, only now looking closer at all we have left around us in our life, try to make sense of it all, and keep going… somehow.

It can feel unpredictable at times, especially if you’re experiencing grief for the first time. But there are a few truths about grief that can help start the process and give you a sense of agency during an experience that can threaten to take you down. (1) It shows up in ways that are both obvious and more subtle. (2) It is nonlinear, meaning, there is no beginning, middle, and end to our grief, no timeline, and no real order to how things will come up for you. And (3) Grief is a full-on, full-body experience that exists on a spectrum. How grief shows up for you is based on the day, the circumstances, the level of exhaustion you feel, grief triggers, anniversaries, relationship struggles, and your emotional baseline. It’s important that you can know and name this for yourself, because when we misunderstand what grief is, we dismiss it and, in the process, belittle its place in our lives, as well as its impact on our health and wellness. Grief is so much more than a feeling.

After loss, in our own time and ways, we all try to regain a semblance of normalcy and control. I know how hard it is to feel people really get it, that anyone other than you really understands what you’re going through. How could they? Did they know your loved one? Did they see the way your (now ex) husband used to look at you? Did they stay up all night talking with your friend, sharing all your secret worries and the joy of your accomplishments right up until the day they moved across the country and got a new best friend? Did they hold your pet’s paw, telling them it would be all right when what you were really saying was goodbye? Did they get on their hands and knees and pray to God to heal or keep someone around, because they couldn’t imagine living without that person and maybe didn’t even know how? Did they know what it was like to have to tell people the baby you posted online about for nine months was no longer alive? How could they know? How could anyone really know what a loss means to someone? We can’t.

So if you’re thinking that grief is a singular feeling you just have to feel your way through and get right back to yourself again, I’m so sorry to be the worst of all messengers: This is an experience that will require your endurance, emotionally, physically, and yes, even spiritually, because your loss has changed your life.

Seeking out support and guidance during this time is courageous, and, I am sure, also exhausting and terrifying. I see your opening this book as reaching out and searching for connection during the hardest, maybe most confusing moment in your life. I know I already said it, but I’m really glad you’re here.

A Little About Me

So, who is this person asking you to trust her with your heart and your hurt? Well, I am a psychotherapist with nearly twenty years of experience working in different types of institutions in New York City, from Mt. Sinai Hospital Center to 92NY (formerly the 92nd Street Y). I began in various social work roles and worked my way up to director positions, working with many different groups of people. This includes, in no particular order, Holocaust survivors and older adults in life transitions, low-income, inner-city populations struggling to attain basic daily needs, teens and adults deeply challenged by addiction of all kinds, and trauma histories, people enduring severe mental illness diagnoses in inpatient (and outpatient) hospital settings, as well as asylum seekers trying to escape further trauma and harm—people from all walks of life, grappling with the most challenging life (and death) circumstances. These courageous humans have been my teachers. I have been immensely privileged to journey alongside them during their darkest moments. My clinical expertise after years of being in the trenches with hundreds of clients is in the heart of these pages. A note on my social location: While, yes, I have worked with a wide variety of populations over my decades as a clinician, I am a white, cis female therapist who has a private practice on the Upper West Side of Manhattan, without the lived experience of being racially or culturally marginalized. For the purposes of this book, I will be speaking specifically to the clinical grief experience, while wanting to acknowledge the diverse racial and cultural needs and grief experiences that exist, and that also come through my door.

In addition to my work, I am also a motherless daughter, who in the same horrific week her mother died also had to struggle with losing her home, her job, and her health. At other points, just like so many people, I have lost partners, friends, loved ones, and several versions of myself that I treasured. I don’t share this to compete in the Grief Olympics. (A) Those don’t exist. (B) Nobody’s loss is ever the same as anyone else’s. Your loss is yours in the way your love is yours. It is sacred; nobody can take it from you. I share these losses with you, though, to assure you that I’ve also been around the block a few times, and that I may be able to help you find your way, too.

One of the many reasons I wanted to write this book was that during the pandemic, there weren’t enough hours in the day to help the number of grieving people who needed it. Week after week, I would speak with people from different states who were desperate for a grief therapist but did not have access to grief therapy for a variety of reasons. As the pandemic wore on, more and more calls came in from a younger crowd inquiring about grief and trauma therapy after loss. Some called because they’d lost friends and family to COVID-19, or their pet died during the pandemic, which sparked grief for all of the family. But many others reached out because they were in the midst of major life transitions like breakups, job loss, home transitions, and more. I was heartened seeing so many more people taking their mental health seriously and wanting to understand more about what they were experiencing. I was heartbroken not to be able to help more of them personally. My hope was that this book could be a hand reaching out to say, I’m sorry, I see you, I am here, and I care.

What I Hope You Get Out of This Book

I cannot promise that this book will fix your pain, but I can promise that it will be a steadfast companion. The road through grief is fraught and lacks comfortable accommodation, but I do have a well-worn map that shows the different routes you can take to find what you need: a sense of safety, understanding, courage, peace, and guidance, to name a few. If you allow your experience to unfold in its own ways, the words on these pages may help you shift that pain. It may also bring up memories or experiences that may feel initially uncomfortable. I’m sorry about that. There may be triggers that come out of the blue, too. We will go there, into the grit of your grieving.

My goal with this book is to offer a sense of agency over an intolerable, unpredictable, and exhausting experience. Although I do not subscribe to the five stages of grief in how they have evolved since Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross created them for the terminally ill patient, I do believe in having a semblance of structure and some gentle guides to prevent you from flailing in a dark abyss. You should not be left to grieve indefinitely without a sense of relief. Perhaps counterintuitively, the path to that relief comes from tenderly facing your loss. This means I will challenge you to make contact with your most vulnerable feelings, dig deep for self-compassion in the toughest moments, and listen to your body’s innate wisdom (you may not always be happy with that!). We will also identify different kinds of boundaries that aim to help you meet your needs and help others to help you, too. As unbelievable as it may feel at times, there is a way to move forward with your grief in a way that doesn’t render you helpless or at the mercy of ever-shifting emotions. My promise is to be right beside you as we work toward taking the sting out of your daily grief experience a little at a time.

In these pages, I’ll offer you some new ways of viewing your loss (and your life), practical tools, many reflections, and some stories from inside my therapy room that you may relate to, including my own story of loss and grief. By the end, I hope you’ll have picked up some new ways to befriend and contend with your grief, and that you feel just a little less alone.

Grief is the deepest human wound there is, and it’s everywhere. Even in places within our lives we didn’t notice it. It deserves more than one-size-fits-all bits of advice. This book will ask you to open up your heart and peruse your painful memories and perhaps look more deeply at those wounds. It’s no easy endeavor, even if you’re eager to jump in. Where you go next and how you begin to find shreds of light and hope in your life again are the cornerstone of what’s inside these pages.

In many ways, this is the book I wish I’d had when I was grieving the death of my mother. Perhaps I could have been gentler with myself through the clumsy moments that were really just me trying to push through it, deny it, see it, but then conveniently not have time for it… before inevitably answering the damn door and inviting that grief in. Trust me, though, like many of you reading this right now, if I could have drop-kicked grief in those early days and gotten back to my life with my mom still in it, I’d have done it. Instead, I warily dragged myself to the bookstore and searched for books that spoke to me, that I could point to and see myself. Sadly, I didn’t see much of myself in those aisles.

Maybe I was picky. I wanted a book that spoke to my actual emotional experience and lifestyle of being a thirtysomething in a relentlessly fast-paced world with nonstop social media notifications and navigating friendships and a love relationship with this new, gaping wound. Not to mention that, at the time, not many people I knew had lost someone close to them through death. It felt lonely and exhausting. I wanted to learn how to better ask for what I needed, and sometimes, how to even know what those needs were. I was so used to working and caring for others’ needs for so long, I hardly remembered how to take a deeper look at my own.

Grief can unravel us and we are then left standing over our lives trying to figure out how to put the pieces back together. Sometimes, it takes everything in us just to figure out where to start.

Now’s as Good a Time as Any to Begin

There is never a “good” time to do grief work, or a time we may willingly throw open the doors to our soul and bare the pain and fragility and yearning within. Not usually without a really compelling reason, am I right? Yet, here we are, and here we will begin—not my way or your way, but our way.

So, right here and right now, I invite you into my office, asking of you only what I ask of my clients: Show up as best you can, and tell the truth.

That truth you share in the exercises or simply notice coming up as you read will inevitably be the gateway to your emotional freedom and a stronger sense that you can, indeed, get through the worst of what has happened. Facing it all, head-on, at your own pace and with my guidance and gentle support, is a courageous step toward healing, even when it feels like falling apart.

You will hear me say in different ways that grief is a unique experience and very individually processed. The flip side of this is the fact that we find the path through grief by shared experience. As a result, being witnessed and having your feelings and experience heard and honored is the path toward reconnection. The stories—both my own and those of my clients—are my way of offering you that.

Humbly, this book is an invitation to be with your shattered heart in a quiet place, here with me in the pages that will be all about you and your experience. I’m sorry to be the jerk who says that time doesn’t heal all wounds. It doesn’t. What it does do, though, is help to make space for new understanding, new normals, new connections, and new experiences—all of which come with both the bitter and the sweet.

As impossible as this may now seem, I assure you that you can learn to live with grief’s flow and rhythm. And you can become empowered by the very thing you think might swallow you whole.





The Griefall


The freefall after loss.

The compass that both loses and finds you.

Nothing is ever the same.

“She died! She died!” my father said frantically on the other end of the phone. “She died while I went to pick up the phone to talk to you a minute ago!”

Time immediately stopped. I momentarily left my body.

I heard his words, but as I stood on a busy street in New York City, I couldn’t make sense of what he was saying. I’d just hung up with him a few seconds earlier, when she was still alive.

My mother just died.

Full stop.

I told my dad I’d be on the next train back home, and hung up as my body began to shake from the shock. I was on the corner of East Seventy-Seventh Street, stuck in a loop of horrific information. I watched the street crossing sign change. White. Flashing. Red. And again—white, flashing, red. I willed my body to take a step, to cross the street, to move anywhere at all, but it was frozen in place. I looked around for someone with whom I could share the most important, devastating news, some stranger to witness my loss. I needed someone to give me a reference point. My world was shrinking around me, and fast. I felt disoriented and untethered to my surroundings. I felt like I was free-falling—but, to where?

But there was no one. On this otherwise ordinary Friday morning in early December, there wasn’t a single human nearby. It was so weird. I mean, it’s Manhattan. There are always people, especially during the weekday morning rush hour. Where are all the people?! This doesn’t even feel real. Maybe it isn’t? But, wait, my mother died. My mother, who had celebrated her sixty-fourth birthday with family and friends twelve days earlier, looking healthier than she had in some time… is no longer. This is real. Yes, it is real.

Now what?

I felt dazed, but aware enough to stifle any emotions. How could I navigate my way through the subway if my eyes were blurred with tears? I began to make my way to the Metro-North train at Grand Central to ride an hour up the river to the Hudson Valley to my hometown. I was careful not to cry, because even in my shock, I was still vain enough not to want to snot all over myself in public. Once on the train, I spent an inordinate amount of time practicing what I’d say if a stranger tried to sit next to me. “I’m sorry, you can’t sit here, because my mom just died and I need space to quietly lose my shit if I have to, thanks.” Or, “I’m sorry, but I’m saving this seat for my mother, who will be here any moment, I’m sure (even if not visibly).” Was anything not totally bizarre to say? Surveying my inner dialogue, I realized I was an emotional wild card weirdo at the moment. I had to embrace it, though—it could be no other way. Luckily, no one even tried to sit near me, so my train-riding reputation remained intact, and my relief was overflowing for my hour of aloneness.

I felt like I was disconnected from real life, but I knew when I got off that train I’d have to help to get the preparations for her funeral started. I needed to keep it together, so I stared out the window at the Hudson River speeding past, repeating the reality back to myself: Mom died. Okay, she died. Over and over I reminded myself of that simple, devastating fact, really trying to ground myself in that new heavy reality. The suddenness of her passing was too harsh to integrate. Loss is funny like that. Everything feels shocking, even if it isn’t really a shock.

When it was time to get off the train, I felt myself clutching the seat. My body wanted to stay and avoid all that would inevitably come next with losing my mom. Funeral arrangements, calls to make, reservations to book, and many people to see in the coming days. I was already overwhelmed. I didn’t want to face this first day without my mother alive or all the things I’d rehearsed in my head, preparing for this very moment. After all, my mother was sick with metastasized colon cancer and her oncologist had told us early on (a year and a half prior) that there would be no cure or remission. They’d caught it too late.

“Too late”—those words from my mother’s oncologist will forever echo in my head. It’s as if she had been instructed to show up to her cancer on time and was being punished for failing to be a good cancer student. Even as I exited the train, I, too, was too late. I had been staying with her for several weeks, and on and off going up to stay most weekends since her cancer progressed to the “it’s only a matter of time” stage. This one night, however, I said a nonchalant goodbye to her, as I fully expected to see her the next morning after taking care of some things in the city. She died before I got back to her.

There I was on the platform wishing to avoid it all. I didn’t want to see my dad’s brokenhearted face or find her burial outfit or select a casket or write a goddamn eulogy when all I could think to say was this fucking sucks. There is just never enough time with people we love, is there? Fresh grief tossed me into the horrific limbo so many of you may understand, of not wanting her to suffer anymore, but really, really not wanting her dead.

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  • “A must-read book that will help your mind feel less heavy and open the door to deep personal growth."—Yung Pueblo, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Lighter and Clarity & Connection
  • "This book is a lifeline to the exhausted treading water in an ocean of loss. Much like its author it is smart, kind, honest and without judgement. Anyone living with loss will find expert guidance and hope here." —Steve Leder, New York Times bestselling author of For You When I am Gone, and The Beauty of What Remains
  • "A smart, modern and heartfelt guide to the painful and often confusing process of grief. Gina Moffa so beautifully shows us the roads to moving forward and turning our helplessness into agency."—Galit Atlas, PhD, author of Emotional Inheritance
  • “Reading this book, I felt like Gina Moffa was right there with me in the room, gently helping me to understand grief. Both her knowledge and wisdom about the physical impact of grief and the relationship between grief and trauma make this book incredibly unique.” —Mary-Frances O’Connor, PhD, author of The Grieving Brain
  • "Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go is a balm for the soul. With wisdom, empathy, and practical advice, Gina helps us to navigate the complex experiences that arise in the aftermath of loss to find healing in the midst of our sorrow."—Kris Carr, New York Times bestselling author and wellness advocate
  • "Gina Moffa helps us gaze through the kaleidoscope of loss and hurt and make sense of what we’re seeing. Honest and gentle, knowledgeable and experienced, raw and pure, Moving On Doesn’t Mean Letting Go is about loss, but it is equally about how to live."—Eveline Helmink, author of The Handbook for Bad Days
  • "We are all grieving something, and Gina Moffa's writing offers the comfort of a best friend and the support of a trusted therapist as we navigate our losses—big and small. This book is a gift for anybody who knows that life will never be the same, but hopes that it will always be worth living."—Ruby Warrington, author of Sober Curious and Women Without Kids
  • "Extraordinary. Gina Moffa expertly breaks down what it actually means to hold self-compassion as we grieve, turning the abstract and often-dismissed concept of self-care into clear and practical patterns of behavior and thought that will allow mourners to feel safe and in touch with their ever-changing emotional needs. Reading her book is like having a wise friend by your side, whispering guidance and encouragement to us in the darkest of times."—Colin Campbell, writer, director for theatre and film, author of Finding the Words
  • “Gina Moffa is the therapist we all need: the wise practitioner who tells you that you’re not alone in your anxiety or fear, and that there’s hope for you yet, because she’s been there too, and knows. Moving On Doesn’t Mean Letting Go is for anyone who has been touched by loss—and by that, I mean everyone.”—Laurel Braitman, New York Times bestselling author of Animal Madness and What Looks Like Bravery
  • “If you don’t have a therapist on speed dial—or even if you do—this book is un-missable. Moffa shares important information on the mind-body connection as it relates to the grief experience, helping us understand how important it is to listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us.”—Jenny Lisk, author of Future Widow and host of the Widowed Parent Podcast
  • "Every few years there is a book that makes me stop, pause, and breathe deeper into my body. I feel more equipped as a parent, brother, son, and partner to support those around me in their grief, and I feel ten times more confident about my capacity to hold and make space for grief myself. When I experience grief and pain in my life, I will turn to Gina's book repeatedly."—Sylvester McNutt III, bestselling author of Care Package: A Path To Deep Healing
  • "Infused with clinical and personal insight and wisdom, Gina offers us a tender invitation to enter the portal of grief with compassion and self-awareness. Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go gives a sense of being seen and cared for every step of the way."—Jessica Baum, LMHC, author of Anxiously Attached
  • "Moving On Doesn’t Mean Letting Go is the book we need to know that we don't have to navigate through grief alone."—Tiffany A. Yu, Founder and CEO of Diversability, disability right's activist
  • “With the keen clinical insights of a veteran trauma therapist and the embodied wisdom of a grieving daughter, Gina Moffa offers us a book that feels like a hand reaching out in the dark.  This book is a gift to all grievers and those who are hoping to become better supporters.”—Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA, LCSW, clinical psychotherapist, host of the "Grief is My Side Hustle" podcast
  • "Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go provides education, check-ins, and tools wrapped in both empathy and expertise. Anyone who has ever experienced any sort of loss, from the loss of a friendship, or breakup, to the loss of a loved one, will find this book a lifeline along their journey." —Micheline Maalouf, LMHC, psychotherapist, host of the Mind.Fully.Healing podcast, and mental health educator
  • “This book is a big fat hug for anyone navigating the waves of grief.”—Meaghan B. Murphy, author of Your Fully Charged Life and Editor in Chief of Woman’s Day
  • "Navigating the aftermath of loss can feel like an impossible journey, but equipped with the compassionate tools Moffa offers in this book, you needn’t be afraid of moving forward. This is a book I will continue to recommend to grievers and the people who love them." —Rebekah Borucki, author of You Have Four Minutes to Change Your Life
  • "Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go gets to the heart of the grief experience for our modern day. I can't recommend this book enough to anyone who needs guidance, support, care, and understanding on this painful journey."—Karen Chinca, LICSW-CEDS-2, Diplomate, Academy of Cognitive Therapy
  • “Moffa's book is a balm for anyone who's ever fumbled through the darkness of grief or felt they were somehow doing it wrong.” —Salon

On Sale
Aug 22, 2023
Page Count
272 pages

Gina Moffa, LCSW

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Gina Moffa, LCSW, MA, is a licensed psychotherapist, mental health educator, and media consultant in New York City. In practice for nearly two decades, she has helped thousands of people seeking treatment for trauma, grief, as well as challenging life experiences and transitions. This includes work with Holocaust survivors at 92Y, as well as being a clinical director for a Mt. Sinai Hospital Outpatient Program specializing in addictions. She received her master’s degree in social work with a specialty in trauma from New York University.

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