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The Hardest Hardest Job

A Compassionate Guide to Caring for Yourself While Raising a Disabled Child

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By Amanda Griffith-Atkins

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A guide to navigating the emotional experience of caring for and raising children with significant disabilities, from a therapist and disability parent. 

Amanda Atkins-Griffith is one of the millions of parents raising a severely disabled child. She has boundless love for her son Asher—she is his biggest cheerleader, his fiercest advocate, and she accepts him fully.  But there are many days where the work of caring for a child who requires significant and meaningful support to get through the day, and who will likely not be able to live fully independent adult life feels like more than she can handle. For a long time, she kept these feelings to herself—afraid people would question her love and acceptance of her child. But as a therapist, she knows how important it is to bring hard feelings to the light.

In The Hardest Hardest Job, Atkins-Griffith makes space for the “dark side” of disability parenting, without seeing this as diametrically opposed to boundless love for your child. Amanda takes parents through the different challenging phases in their child’s life, covering everything from the frustration of school advocacy to navigating your child’s adolescence to setting them up for their future without you. Then she turns the lens to the parent’s world, helping them navigate the fraught territory of marriage, identity, and how to manage non-disabled siblings. She coaches parents through letting go of expectations, guilt, and control; embracing your child for who they are and where they are; facing the feelings of grief and loss and disappointment. And admitting that things are sometimes—often—more than you can handle. The goal is to make room for all of you feelings so you don't lose yoursel—and so you can be a more present caretaker and better advocate for your child. 
 

On Sale
Jun 10, 2025
Page Count
256 pages
ISBN-13
9781523527618

Amanda Griffith-Atkins

About the Author

Amanda Griffith Atkins, MS, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of the Amanda Atkins Counseling Group in Chicago. Amanda earned a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from Northwestern University, but it wasn’t until her son was born that she discovered her life’s purpose: to help parents of disabled children find their stride. Through the process of embracing disability parenting, Amanda has become an in-demand therapist and gets daily inquiries from people all over the world.

She is a former contributor to Liberating Working Moms and has contributed to articles in the Chicago Tribune, Bustle, POPSUGAR, Better, Chicago Parent magazine, and Crains Chicago. She is also a lecturer at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine and Adler University. She lives in Chicago with her husband and three sons.

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